Focus can be difficult to maintain. Particularly for the creative types who, like myself, fit into the jack-of-all trades, master of none category. Sometimes we go off track when it comes to focus: whether it's a business, job, blog, or workout plan. We've all had those experiences where we kind of lose it. Sometimes it's … Continue reading The Truth Behind Failure: How to Focus
That first March weekend wasn’t cold. Still, the dancers would walk down King St in track pants with duffle bags, hair in ponytails, heads bowed if they wore full make-up, with false eyelashes fluttering against the breeze. They would slide through the club, sticking to side tables, not making eye-contact with customers, wallets held in … Continue reading How Does a Job Interview for a Strip Club Work?
Hello, I'm a stripper. I talk about this online a lot. I often receive unbelievably lovely comments from men and women alike online, offering empathy and understanding. On the flip side, I also sometimes receive comments that describe me as a 'whore', or 'goldigger' - even though in reality, a rich old dude dying and … Continue reading Living Online as a Stripper
The other week I wrote a blog post about body confidence and how working in the adult industry after gaining weight made me feel. That post was true, but it was not the only perspective I have on the situation. I want to start this post by saying: I find many blog posts about body … Continue reading Body Image in the Adult Industry – Take Two
Our social media feeds are littered with rich bloggers - the ones that can afford $500-$1,500 DSLR cameras, extensive iPhone bills, expensive holidays, and lots and lots of photo ops for smashed avocados or breakfasts in plush hotel room beds. I remember when I was eighteen years old the tumblr blog Rich Kids of Instagram … Continue reading Is Social Media Classist?
Over the course of the Easter long weekend, millions of women all across the world, laced and buckled high-heeled shoes designed for Pole Dancing in order to work long hours in strip clubs made by the brand, 'Pleaser'. Pleaser shoes have been a staple piece of the uniform worn by strippers across the world for … Continue reading PLEASE STOP WEARING STRIPPER CLOTHING ON INSTAGRAM IF YOU ARE NOT A SEX WORKER – AN OPEN LETTER FROM A STRIPPER:
Years before I ever knew what the Law of Attraction was, when I was a child I used to dream of living in a castle. It would be in England, or France, the main part of my castle was my dream library tower/office. In my mind this was a circular room with a loft-style balcony … Continue reading The Motivating Power of Fantasy
SEX WORK AND SOCIETY. In today's podcast we discuss the nuances of sex work, sex trafficking and the place of sex work in society. We also delve into the NOLA Stripper Strike. LINKS: HUMAN TRAFFICKING: https://www.nij.gov/topics/crime/human-trafficking/pages/welcome.aspx WASHINGTON POST ON NEW ORLEANS STRIP CLUB CLOSURES: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/post-nation/wp/2018/02/02/exotic-dancers-march-on-the-streets-to-protest-crackdown-on-new-orleans-strip-clubs/ JOSEPH C SOMER ON SEX WORK AND SOCIETY: http://humanismbyjoe.co/sex-industry-benefits-society/ Katie … Continue reading Podcast Episode 3. Sex Work and Society
SEX WORK AND POP CULTURE. The return of the podcast! Thank you all for being so patient while this podcast returns. This week I have a very special interivew with one of our foremothers, Antonia Crane, a powerhouse of a woman who has been in the adult industry for over twenty-six years, written a memoir … Continue reading Podcast Ep.4 Sex Work and Pop Culture ft. Antonia Crane
'Christ,' I said turning to my boyfriend the morning after my third or fourth weekend as a stripper. 'How does anyone manage to gain weight stripping?' My thigh muscles were burning and I was already starving upon waking up. When I stood up to walk my legs shook. 'I think you need some carbs and … Continue reading Weight Gain and Working in the Adult Industry
It's not always the people closest to you who will support your business ventures. That's true, and often a little bit heartbreaking. It's not their fault. Family and friends often warn and discourage us from striking out on our own due to fear - fear of us failing, fear of our own sadness, fear of … Continue reading Our Weak Ties | Using Weak Ties Theory